How one decision can set off a chain reaction
In modern Western society we are driven heavily by consumption which is largely driven by ideology. The West was purported to be a land of discovery, vastly unexplored. Yet, over time, America became known as the "land of possibility". By the early 1900's, a major shift began to occur when American society became aware of the limitless possibilities of a free-market society. By the 1920's, Ford had introduced the assembly line and by the 40's General Motors began spearheading innovation of big business and production standards.
The argument could be made that automobile production was the spark that ignited our modern consumerist culture. With innovations in production and rapid technological development over the following decades, Americans became increasingly expectant in the ability to participate in the free-market. Fast forward another 80 years and the average American presumes that everything should be instant access. Two day shipping is the new norm and instant downloads have overtaken our previous dial-up connections. Our ability to purchase and consume has reached a point the world has never seen. So where do we go from here?
Don't get me wrong, the ability to have access to a free-market is a great gift given to us in the West. Our access to fresh food, clothes, and other necessities is a luxury that many other societies may never know. However, this superpower is to be used with caution. Greed is not a word familiar to the people in resource-constrained societies such as Uganda or Haiti. Same day delivery and online shopping are completely foreign concepts to many in underdeveloped nations. Yet, in America, greed drives every socioeconomic class from the poorest of the poor to the richest of the rich. Greed is defined as an "excessive or rapacious desire, especially for wealth or possessions" (source). We all are subject to feelings of greed throughout our lives by wanting and desiring more than is absolutely necessary and required.
Introducing the Diderot Effect
The Diderot effect is named after French philosopher Denis Diderot and highlights a profound pattern of consumption that emerges across individuals related to the purchase of consumer goods. The term Diderot effect was first coined by anthropologist Grant McCracken in 1988 but actually originally referenced by Diderot himself a personal essay titled Regrets on Parting with My Old Dressing Gown.
Diderot was in financial need which became known to the Russian Empress Catherine the Great. Upon learning about Diderot's need for money, she agreed to purchase his library for a large sum of money and appoint him lifetime caretaker. What he did shortly after that windfall is what led to the realization of the "Diderot effect".
Diderot highlights how the purchase of a beautiful red dressing gown led to a spiral of consumption that ultimately landed him back in debt. Upon the initial purchase of his new red gown (and hence the parting ways with his old dressing gown), Diderot began to examine all of his other possessions in comparison to his bright new red robe. He quickly realized how lousy they were in comparison. His solution at the time was to begin purchasing new items that were more in line with the luxury of the beautiful red gown, all leading back to the same level of financial constraint that he was originally plagued with.
We are no different than Denis Diderot
The purchase of a new phone is accompanied by a fancy new case, a protection plan, insurance, and a higher monthly bill to boot. Refinishing your deck or patio area comes with the purchase of a new gas grill, patio furniture, outdoor plants, and some trendy decorative lighting. A new outfit needs new shoes and jewelry to match. We are eternally damned by these types of purchases.
The goal is not to stop this urge from happening, but rather change the way you respond to it. Replacing a worn out or broken couch does not have to lead to new lamps, end tables, coffee tables, and an impressive new area rug. You can replace or fix the couch but be cautious of the temptation to enter a proceeding spiral of consumption. Consider painting the tables or simply changing the lamp shades as an alternative to complete replacements- a substitution of undesired behavior.
Instead of substituting the undesired behavior, you could also aim for complete elimination of Diderot-like behavior. This might involve saving up an exact amount for the purchase of a new item- a couch in our example above. Any purchases made within the next 90 days would then need to be examined against whether the original purchase influenced that behavior. If you can hold off beyond 90 days, then the item you were considering purchasing is likely a desire, not a necessity.
What to do about it
I will admit, it is definitely nice to have nice things. Although frugality is an important trait that I hope to share with everyone, frugality does not have to be synonymous with deprivation. By recognizing that we are all subject to the same pressures as Denis Diderot, we can recognize that a spiral of consumption is never more than one purchase away. In particular, if you are already in financial trouble, one single spiral can derail a significant amount of positive progress.
Be mindful of your purchases. Truly consider how much you will value your purchase in the long-term. Certainly do not agonize over every single purchase, but rather try to emphasize mindfulness and frugality more consistently over time. With enough practice, you will easily be able to identify what purchases are in line with your values, and which ones aren't. Overconsumption is not an impressive or attractive quality. Take the time to analyze whether something, or someone, is influencing you to engage in spending behaviors that are not consistent with your ideals.
The downside of focusing only on earning more money
Earning more money can either turn your life around or turn it inside out. There is a difference between earning to spend and earning to save. The mindset is completely different between the two.
Poor accumulators of wealth spend more as their income increases. Good accumulators of wealth learn to save some, or all, of their increased earnings. This is the difference between displaying and accumulating wealth. Those who "display" wealth, are interested in spending on things that show to others some resemblance of wealth. Savers are frugal with their habits and are more interested in their net worth increasing over what friends think of what they have.
Increasing your net worth is simple and it necessitates that you become a good wealth accumulator. It does not mean that you earn a high income and spend everything you make because despite your façade of high social status, you are essentially poor from a net worth perspective.
A word of caution: more income is not always better. You can actually be a good wealth accumulator if you practice mindfulness and frugality with your money.
Here are some questions to ask yourself before chasing a higher salary at all costs:
If we are always focused on productivity and output, we may miss the very things that are right in front of us. Further, many activities listed above (exercise, sleep, nutrition, meditation, cognitive challenges) are actually scientifically proven to improve BDNF and neuroplasticity thus making our brains even more productive.
Does more income always result in more freedom?
Not always. We highlighted above that earning more money can potentially lead to increased psychological, and occasionally physical, stress.
Another axiom worth mentioning is about "working smarter, not harder". At baseline, most people work relatively "hard", they just tend to be inefficient. Efficiency would be working aggressively for a short period of time and then taking a break. For example, the Pomodoro technique is surrounded around taking 25 minutes for a task and then given yourself a break at the end of 25 minutes. This technique is centered around the concept that we have very limited attention spans. Instead of trying to work for 8 hours straight, try instead to break your work down to short intervals interspersed with stretching, standing, or walking breaks. Doing this throughout the day will likely increase your productivity quite a bit.
Our work inefficiency and arbitrary 40-hour work weeks actually reduce our freedom greatly. If you work remote, this might be easier to pull off. If you work at the office, you will look like anybody else who is frequently taking breaks throughout the day, they are just doing it at random. You are going to pre-define your time periods and rest intervals. Set the clock for 25 minutes and do not stop and take a stretch break until you get their. Once you reach the 25 minute mark, try taking a true 5 minute rest by breathing, stretching, walking around, or anything else that can allow you to practice mindfulness.
"Money Doesn't Buy Happiness"?
The typical belief is that we need to have "nice things" and buy more stuff to display a high social status to prove to others how wealthy we are. In spending more, you fail to realize that you are inherently saving less and therein drastically slowing down the accumulation of your net worth. In the long term, spending more will effectively create more financial strain and stress, not less. This is not likely to result in long-term happiness.
Efficiency and happiness maximizes your freedom
If your six-figure job requires ruthless hours then you are not in control of your own freedom. There are certainly ways to make more money with less stress, but those opportunities are few and far between. More stress traded for more money is almost always the deal.
Think of the promotion to management. Now you have more employees to manage, scheduling to do, deals to close, handling poor performance and lack of motivation. Management is somewhat akin to "adult babysitting". Consider if this is truly something that you want and go into a promotion like that fully aware of how increasing your earnings might impact your job satisfaction.
What about the successful business owner who sits in his backyard while earning $10k a month from his business? Where were you the first 35 years he was rolling around on the floor like one of the employees? All you see now is the snapshot of what he has become due to all his time spent, holidays missed, birthdays not attended. All so that he can enjoy the "twilight years" of his life just to have you assume he always did it that way.
My ultimate proposal is that we improve and optimize our efficiency. Researchers indicates that happiness plateaus at an annual income around $70k per year. After that, the return is insignificant. This might mean that if you are already above this income level, earning less by taking a role more aligned with your values is more valuable than the increased earnings.
I am not averse to hard work and discipline, far from it. However, you need to enjoy life and enjoy what you do. Be careful about becoming beholden to your job. Buying more than you can afford is the number one way to feel stuck in a job you hate. If you are going to participate in periods of life with higher income and higher stress, please do so wisely by accumulating, saving, and investing your increased earnings, not spending it all away!
If you are frugal, disciplined, and value-oriented, focus on the following:
Happiness is more important than income
I encourage you to see if there is more to life than determining success based on earnings. Money can only buy certain things, most of which derive very little happiness.
There are plenty of things that move the needle on happiness that are free:
Perhaps your best life is about separating "what you do" from "who you are". Do not think about work after hours or on days off. Be mindful and figure out "who you are" when you are away from work. Spending too much of your precious time at work and thinking about work will make your job define you. From my experience, MOST people do not want to be defined by their jobs.
Let us know your thoughts below in the comments section. Are there any other free activities that you really enjoy to share with the frugal community?
Do you really need to live a life of extreme deprivation?
Extreme deprivation isn't really that much fun. To most folks, the idea of putting on 4 layers in the winter instead of turning on the heat is not that appealing. Standing in the grocery store comparing the cost per ounce of beans is, for many, not a recipe for a good time. The cost savings of single-ply toilet paper is just too abrasive for most (literally).
Don't get me wrong, frugality tends to come with some weird savings hacks that are the centerpiece of your friend's jokes. I have even heard of someone using industrial CO2 containers to make their own seltzer water. Frugal folks tend to be a pretty strange flock.
If you are motivated by cost cutting and frugality on small ticket items, go right ahead, I won't stop you.
But if the idea of penny pinching on the little things drives you crazy then perhaps you need a much needed re-frame on your concept of frugality.
"The Big Three" Expenses
For those of us who cannot tolerate the idea of skipping our latte factor items, there may be bigger fish to fry for you yet.
Saving on housing, transportation, and food is a hell of a good place to start. In fact, it may be the only strategy you will ever need.
Housing. Buy less house than you can afford, nothing more. Married with one kid and no plans for more? Why the hell do you need a 5 bedroom, 3 bathroom house? You don't. Be smart. Warren Buffet still lives in the home he bought for $31,500 in 1958.
Transportation. Don't buy a new car. Ever. It's really that simple. Buffet, one of the wealthiest men alive drives a midsize sedan, a 2014 Cadillac.
Food. Don't eat out. Split meals when you do go out. Cook at home a great majority of the time.
My thoughts on "The Big Three" expenses
Show these guidelines to your mortgage or real estate professional if you have trouble computing a price range off of these numbers.
Rule 1: Always buy less than you can afford
Rule 2: Purchase all necessary insurances - don't skimp on these!
Rule 3: Buy a house with at least 2 bathrooms - the more bathrooms in a home the better the resale value
Rule 4: Always get a termite inspection and order a plan that covers treatment.
Rule 1: When it comes to cars, buy used. Never buy new due to massive depreciation as soon as you drive it off the lot.
Rule 2: Bike or walk more often. If you cannot bike or walk, combine your trips to save gas and mileage on your vehicle.
Rule 3: Shop around for more affordable car insurance.
Rule 1: Drastically reduce, or eliminate, dining out and take out orders.
Rule 2: Cook at home.
Rule 3: Buy in bulk. Especially buying and storing the following:
If you happen to know you need a budget, but cannot see yourself trading in your 2-ply toilet paper for 1-ply to save a few Shekels, then focus your efforts in these three areas.
Comment below on how you have saved in these areas.
How small purchases could add up to big savings
I read and hear about too many cost-saving methods that are impractical and simply do not produce quite the return they promise.
First, figure out why you want to save money.
Are you saving for a house? Saving for college education? Saving for an investment? Saving for anticipated expenses such as repairs or maintenance?
Second, please realize that saving money does not have to be difficult. It also does not need to lead to massive deprivation where you use candles instead of lights (plus candles are a fire hazard).
To prove my point, here are 3 stupid items that I save real money on every single year. Results may vary.
3 Simple Ways to Save Money Every Year
1. Eat Almonds
Almonds, my number one snack food item.
I buy a ton of them. Not literally a ton, but damn close. I buy a 40 oz. bag of whole raw almonds online for less than $13.
A typical 16 oz. bag of almonds at the store is $8. The bag I buy online is 2.5x larger but costs less than twice as much. 40 ounces of almonds would cost me over $20 at the store therefore I save about $7 per 40 ounces. I go through a full 40 ounce bag every week which means I save $7 every single week. This adds up to over $350 of savings every single year.
2. Single-Ply Toilet Paper
Actually there are two paper products to be aware of here: single-ply toilet paper and half-sheet paper towels are two game changers.
I can buy a 1000 sheet single ply toilet paper that lasts for 6 months for less than $7 at the store. Supposedly the average American uses $10 worth of toilet paper per month. By switching to single-ply TP I have been able to spend only $14 per year, per person in our household. This comes out to a little over $1 per month of TP usage. This equates to a savings of over $100 per year compared to the average American 2-ply user!
Half-sheet paper towels allows me to be significantly more mindful of how much paper towel I was using. Full sheets are bullshit. Rarely do you ever need a full sheet. I cut my paper towel usage in half my first year using half-sheets. How much could this switch realistically save? I use two less rolls per week at which saves me over $150 per year.
3. Filtered instead of bottled water
Using a water filter could potentially save you big money every year. If the typical household purchases a case of water every week, and bottled water is approximately $5 per case of 24 (depending on where you live), you could save $250 in bottled water every year. If you buy two cases per week, you might be able to save over $500 per year.
Some of these companies even claim you can save up to $1000/yr, but that's a pipe-dream in my opinion.
There are two popular options depending on how often you want to change the filter and how easy you want your experience to be:
Saving Money is Easier Than You Think
Here is proof that even these 3 ridiculous ideas can save you serious money every year without effecting your quality of life via deprivation.
These don't involve turning the thermostat to 45 in the winter or 90 in the summer. They don't involve biking 30 miles to work. They sure as hell don't include eating noodles everyday (just almonds).
What are 3 things that save you real money every year that might surprise fellow readers? Comment below with your answer.
How credit cards got such a bad name
The financial independence community often demonizes the use of credit cards. The words of advice that are commonplace in the personal finance realm suggests you pay for everything in cash. Guys like Dave Ramsey even go so far as to encourage that you cut up your credit card.
But wait, this cannot be the only way. We should not have to carry pockets full of cash around just to fit in with the financial freedom crowd. Why do I have such a problem with this "cutting up the card" advice? I will tell you why. Cutting up your credit card to avoid spending does not correct the actual behavior of overspending.
I agree, it adds friction to the process which many psychologists believe will interfere with the participation in an undesired behavior. In this illusion of self-control, you would add friction to your undesired habit as a means to decreasing the likelihood you will participate in said habit. A smoker would lock their cigarettes in a cabinet and hide the key down the block as a method for increasing friction between them and their undesired behavior. Cutting up the card is like hiding the cigarettes. It fails to address the poor habit head on.
Where credit cards shine
First up is credit card rewards. The fellas over at ChooseFI have a great section on their site about travel rewards and credit card rewards. Cash back, bonus points, airline miles, travel rewards and hotel credits are some of the many perks that certain cardholders can participate in with disciplined use. Without a credit card you cannot participate in these rewards. Remember however, these credit card rewards are not actually for your benefit (at least they are not supposed to be). These rewards exist to encourage spending behavior. Period. You are lying to yourself if you say that rewards will not encourage you to spend more. It will, unless you are hardcore about recognizing your spending habits and budgeting. This is why you have to "game-out" rewards and turn the tides in your favor so that you can benefit from something that was originally intended to cause you harm (in the form of overspending).
Next up, cards can help build your credit score. To do this, you need to pay particular attention to some important factors in order to build your score:
Why is building a credit score important?
The benefits of a high credit score (720+) include:
The final credit card benefit worth mentioning is the added safeguards of carrying a credit card vs. carrying cash all the time. If you think this doesn't apply to you, think again. Lost your wallet? Just immediately call and freeze your credit card. If there was cash in your wallet, likely forget you ever had it.
Pulling out your wallet or money clip and revealing some serious paper is asking for trouble. Remember, criminals are looking for targets. If they see you at the checkout shuffling through your $100 bills to pay for a light bulb you might have an expected encounter on your way out to your car in the parking lot.
Good credit habits to abide by
Yes, you can be both frugal and have a credit card. Just manage it responsibly and it can be an asset instead of a hindrance. Spend wisely and continue to find ways to improve your saving habits and spending behavior.
Let me know your thoughts in the comments below.
Cutting monetary costs are not the only benefit of these thrifty habits
Some folks need more incentive than simply a lower price tag to practice frugality. Thrifty habits often come with additional benefits, aside from lower cost.
Below you will find some of the dual benefits of common cost cutting techniques. Use this as a means to continue to motivate yourself on why you chose the financial independence lifestyle.
1. Cutting Cable... or just reducing the monthly services
The cost implications of this are obvious. Paying $160 per month just to watch a few games or occasionally flip on the hunting channel? Why not see if you can reduce how much TV you watch by eliminating the channels you barely watch, or even cutting cable altogether.
Some will make an argument that they get great benefit from watching a certain sports team or having access to a certain movie channel. That is entirely your business, not mine.
What I am suggesting is seeing if truly assessing this habit from more than just a monetary cost perspective really yields a positive return on your happiness.
Remember, time is life's most precious commodity. As far as we can tell, it is a fixed commodity for all of us. Consider that, according to the BLS, the average full-time employed American still finds enough time to watch approximately 2 hours of TV per day! Unemployed Americans watch nearly twice that at 3.8 hours per day. This is alarming! Think of all you could be doing if you reduced, or even eliminated, the TV watching habit.
Consider the following additional benefits of cutting/reducing cable, aside from cost savings:
2. Joining a public library
Save money on books and movies. This one actually lends back to our first idea, cutting cable. Stacking these habits would be an excellent idea for maximum benefits of the frugal lifestyle.
There are many free events at the library. Some events at our local library include, but are not limited to:
For those with a family, most public libraries have dedicated areas for children. This can be a great alternative for children to learn and socialize instead of watching TV or playing games on a device.
3. Learn how to DIY
You control the costs because control the inputs.
Aside from controlling costs, think about how DIY might further impact you in the following ways:
Frugality is often about Dual Benefits
Again, as we highlight in "what is frugality", being thrifty is often of great value to those of us leading a life aimed at financial independence.
These dual benefits are an excellent way to continue to properly value our cost saving efforts beyond dollars and cents.
The more you understand about why you have chosen frugality, the easier it will be to stay on track over the long term.
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The Definition of Frugal
Frugality is a term often used synonymous with being "cheap". However, is that really a fair comparison?
What is frugality really?
1. Frugality arranges itself with value as the central tenant.
So what should we value? Value your time, because there is no amount of money that buys more of it. Value your life energy, it is not an infinitely renewable resource. Value your freedom, the freedom of choice (yes, you always have a choice). Value your relationships, because this is really all that you have in this world. Value your beliefs, because nobody can take them away from you.
I admit, most of the above is more from a philosophical life perspective. Most of you are looking for the secrets to money and wealth. So what should we value from a financial perspective? From a financial perspective you should value:
2. Frugality is also the act of gaining awareness.
Become aware of your daily routines. Assess your spending habits and scrutinize your budget. Do you have a list of things that really make you happy? If not, sit down right now and list the top five things that have the potential to make you smile everyday (do not read another word on this site if you are not willing to sit down and literally write down your five sources of potential happiness).
To become aware you need to become present in life. Become conscious about where you are directing a majority of your time and energy. This is about efficiency, not goal setting. I am not a firm believer on the traditional concepts of goal setting (which you will notice in future posts). Gaining awareness and becoming present, avoiding the torment of merely existing through life, is actually a potent wealth generator throughout life.
3. Frugality is about gaining back your freedom.
We all had it after birth, but lost it shortly thereafter. I am of course referring to our freedom. Freedom to choose and freedom to live your life according to your standards, not others.
Let us be honest, there is very little you can do in life without money. Period. At the end of the day, most people would be much better off in life with more savings and less debt. I suspect quite a bit of mental health issues would be drastically improved if just those two numbers were adjusted, meaning less debt and more savings.
Consider the correlation drawn between mental health status and money problems according to a Money and Mental Health survey:
Remember however, correlation does not equal causation. The survey above could just as easily mean that these folks had mental health problems long before they had money problems. Nevertheless, there is a strong correlation between mental health problems and financial difficulties, regardless of which one happened first.
Using the above findings, I would suggest that most folks who would like to improve there overall well-being take a look at their finances. If you happen to also find yourself in problem debt or financial struggles, perhaps consider if improving your financial health would make life much more tolerable.
Personally, I believe that improving debt to savings ratio- amount of debt relative to your savings- is a forceful method towards gaining back your freedom in life.
Think about what life would be like if you did not have to spend your 40's and 50's sprinting towards retirement savings. Think about how much freedom you would have if, by age 40 (or 50 - if you are older than this my statement likely will not apply), you no longer needed to save another dime for retirement because you were saving aggressively towards retirement when you were younger. You could spend these years traveling with your family, embarking on new experiences, all while likely enjoying some of your best earning years. Your children (if you have any) would like be of the age where they can also benefit from these experiences and memories as well.
So how do I gain back some freedom in my life? By examining your "Margin of Potential" against your income and your expenses. Quite simply, Margin of Potential = Income - Expenses
How to Assess Your "Margin of Potential"
Everyone has a "Margin of Potential" equation. Whether your are on public assistance, or make over six figures, this equation applies to you.
However, I frequently find that most folks just take the difference between their income and expenses, and turn around and spend it anyway. That is why I call it the margin of potential. The difference between income and expenses is not saving unless you do something with it!
After calculating your margin of potential, write down the top three things that you do with that number. If saving and investing are not in the top three, we have a problem.
If you do not have a positive number when assessing your margin of potential you will likely find yourself amidst significant financial troubles. One might ask, "How could I possibly have a negative number?". Answer: credit. You can borrow your way right into misery and allow your expenses to be greater than your income (the "American Dream").
The truth is, frugality is really about making your margin of potential a positive number. Of course, one way to make this number positive is simply make more money. However, for many, increasing income is quite a bit more difficult than decreasing expenses. Decreasing expenses is where frugality truly shines. By lowering your own cost of living and decreasing the inflation of your lifestyle, you will lower your expenses and give yourself the opportunity to have a positive margin of potential.
So what will you do next after establishing a positive margin of potential? My hopes is that you will begin to investigate what using this margin can truly do for your happiness.
I started this blog because friends and family often asked me similar questions regarding personal finance. I was surprised just how much people were interested in improving their financial situation, yet had no idea where to start. It made perfect sense to start a blog and share all the information that I have learned along the way with others. You will find many resources and links referred throughout the blog. I have found all of this information useful and continue to grow my knowledge and understanding in the personal finance space. Admittedly, even I struggled heavily in the beginning with understanding how to improve my financial situation. The power of reading and note taking got me where I am today and will continue to provide a return on investment for years to come. I look forward to sharing with you along the way.